Emily V. Gordon Quotes

Emily V. Gordon

Profession : Writer

Birth : May 3, 1979

You're not a victim of your divorce. What you decide to do with yourself and your personal life after your marriage ends is your decision, and completely under your control.

Emily V. Gordon

Sometimes we put so much effort into things we're doing, like dating or wedding planning, that we don't stop to think about whether or not we even want the results of that effort.

Emily V. Gordon

Everybody's got baggage, and not just the classic, 'Oh I have so much baggage,' but everyone comes with so much context, and you're not just dating a person: you're dating all their context, too. Part of relationships is negotiating each other's context.

Emily V. Gordon

People get married for a wide array of reasons and have all sorts of expectations of how marriage will change the relationship. And while it's true that turning the person you're dating into a legal partner does affect certain things, those who expect marriage to be a cure-all for all your relationship woes are sorely mistaken.

Emily V. Gordon

Cheating is very rarely about the actual act of being with another person.

Emily V. Gordon

Your life story is a gift, and it should be treated as such.

Emily V. Gordon

If you've had a marriage that ended because of a betrayal in trust on your spouse's behalf, the idea of trusting another person with your heart can seem completely ridiculous.

Emily V. Gordon

When we each focus on being the dominant force in our own universe rather than invading other universes, we all win.

Emily V. Gordon

Stays at the in-laws' aren't inherently sexy.

Emily V. Gordon

Marriage is not a magical potion that serves to amplify adoration, reduce deep-seated feelings of resentment, erase fears of commitment, or answer questions about whether or not this is the right move. Marriage is a ceremony that cements your current bond to another human being, and while that's a huge thing, that's all it does.

Emily V. Gordon

Not deciding is a decision. People don't realize that not making a decision is a decision in itself.

Emily V. Gordon

The benefits of a healthy, thriving relationship may not be nearly as exciting as watching your career take off, but both aspects of your life are equally important.

Emily V. Gordon

In some cases, newlyweds want so badly for things to be perfect that they ignore warning signs, both in themselves and each other.

Emily V. Gordon

Awkward conversations are painful, but they're way easier than divorce, resentment, and heartbreak.

Emily V. Gordon

'The Babadook,' written and directed by a woman, is a gorgeously told female-focused story of grief, longing, loneliness, and what mourning can become.

Emily V. Gordon

Sometimes we are much better at judging people based on how they treat everyone other than ourselves. We make a million excuses for why they treat us how they do.

Emily V. Gordon

Experiences don't make us damaged goods; it's what we do with those experiences that matters.

Emily V. Gordon

I had a tightly knit group of female friends in elementary school - we called ourselves the Sensational Six.

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Women compete, compare, undermine, and undercut one another - at least, that is the prevailing notion of how we interact.

Emily V. Gordon

In high school, I decided that all of my female friends were stupid and traded them for guy friends. I loved horror movies and heavy metal and used these interests to become a 'guys' girl.'

Emily V. Gordon