Emily V. Gordon Quotes

Emily V. Gordon

Profession : Writer

Birth : May 3, 1979

Sacrificing your relationship for your career sounds noble and romantic from the outside, but the reality is that it can create a pattern of self-destruction that will ultimately burn you out on the career you've worked so hard to build. It's a trap and, for some, an easy way out of having to maintain relationships under stress.

Emily V. Gordon

It's easy to isolate yourself when you're buried in work, or to rely only on work friends for empathy. And while your work friends will always 'get it' more than your life partner, they don't know how to comfort you like your partner does.

Emily V. Gordon

Balanced, passionate, grounded people are the ones whose careers are ultimately the most successful.

Emily V. Gordon

Sometimes new spouses don't fully process the commitment they've made until after the deal is done, and then they panic.

Emily V. Gordon

If you've experienced cheating in a new marriage, the real work is not obsessively combing through all the details of what happened, but rather figuring out if your relationship is worth saving.

Emily V. Gordon

We all have an idea of how we like to be treated that we would like others to adhere to, and somehow we've gotten in our heads that the perfect person for us will just know what this code of behavior is.

Emily V. Gordon

Unequivocally, individual human beings who live together will always have different standards of what a 'clean house' looks like.

Emily V. Gordon

If you don't simply communicate with your spouse what household tasks you would like them to do, you are setting yourself up to be angry.

Emily V. Gordon

People all want and need different emotional responses - some people like to be talked down when they're angry; some people want to be left alone.

Emily V. Gordon

As my marriage was slowly dissolving into silent meals and awkward nights of avoiding conversation, I started pondering an unmarried future and wondered if I'd ever be able to hack being single again.

Emily V. Gordon

Nothing makes a girl feel as unsexy as divorce.

Emily V. Gordon

Burlesque dancing didn't solve all my post-divorce problems, but what it did do was force me to court myself for a little while.

Emily V. Gordon

Hindsight is always 20/20, but I imagine a lot of married and divorced people have insights to share about how they felt during their engagement.

Emily V. Gordon

A lot of people end up getting married more out of expectation than out of passion for each other, but if your options have ever been, 'We either get married or break up,' be careful. Marriage should be a new addition you add to the house that is your relationship, not the structure you impose on the house once it's already built.

Emily V. Gordon

Marriage, even a happy and successful one, can be extremely stressful, but that stress is worth it if you're marrying the best person for you.

Emily V. Gordon

Ghosts of Marriages Past can haunt many aspects of a new relationship - your expectations of what a man should do, how you behave in conflict, your ideas of how commitment should look - they can even make your new man look untrustworthy when he's really behaving normally.

Emily V. Gordon

Without knowing your own history, you are doomed to repeat it.

Emily V. Gordon

Often, when cheating happens, we rush to place blame solely on one person - either the person who did the cheating, or more insidiously, if it happened to us, we blame ourselves for not being 'good enough' to keep them around. But putting it all on one person doesn't paint the entire picture.

Emily V. Gordon

Post-divorce, the world can feel harsh and full of jagged edges.

Emily V. Gordon

The period that directly follows the dissolution of a long term relationship is extremely volatile, with emotions running the gamut from misery to elation to relief to terror.

Emily V. Gordon